Since Thanksgiving was just last week, I thought I'd spend this blog post telling you about what I'm thankful for. And no, autism didn't make the list. As I have said many times in this blog before, while many autistic people see autism as a superpower, something unique & wonderful about themselves, I see it as a hardship & a burden. Something that has very much gotten in the way of me achieving the white picket fence lifestyle I have dreamt of ever since I was a little girl. I had an interesting conversation with my mom last night, so before we move onto what this blog post is really about, I'd like to talk for a moment about Autism Acceptance. My mom made a comment about how I have accepted my autism, but I was quick to correct her. "I haven't accepted my autism. That's one of the things that I hate the most about myself & I wish it would just go away!" I said to her. "But you write all about it in your blog. You're very open about it there," my mom said. "I haven't accepted it though & I probably never will. I can write about it without accepting it. I'm open about it because I want people to have a better understanding of me. I hate my autism!" I exclaimed. "Okay, acknowledge then. You acknowledge that you have autism," my mom said, correcting the verbiage that she had been using. Yes, I acknowledge that I'm autistic. And I'm open about it, too. I'm trying to use my diagnosis to help others have a better understanding of me & to be more accepting of people who are a little bit different from them. But, accepting my autism? I'm far, far, FAR away from that. And to be completely honest with you, I can't see myself ever accepting it. I mean, autism has made my life so much more difficult than it would've been if I was neurotypical. Autism is something I want to stomp on, throw into a fire, & never see again. You get the picture. Feeling that way about my autism isn't acceptance. I wish I could get to the place of autism acceptance, but I haven't gotten there. And I don't think I ever will. What I'm Thankful For:
However, there are certain life experiences, things I have learned, & perspectives that I have that I only have because I am autistic. And that is what I'm thankful for. While I am definitely NOT thankful for autism itself, I do have a lot to be thankful for this Thanksgiving, that is related to autism in one way or another. Those things include, but are not limited to...
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I have to begin this post by saying that I am so lucky, being someone who has felt so loved & so supported, particularly by my family & close friends, throughout the entirety of my autism diagnosis journey & beyond. I know that many, many people who receive diagnoses as adults, or even as children, are not as lucky as I am & are forced to find their footing in this neurotypical world on their own. Going off of that, a couple of days ago, my best friend texted me an article about the rise of neurodiversity at work. Interestingly, several weeks before, my cousin had emailed me a different article on the same topic, that was included in her work's most recent newsletter. Both articles were very similar, making very similar points about employers being more accepting of autistic & neurodiverse employees now, more than ever. The articles even made statements regarding how in certain aspects, neurodiverse employees add more value to a company than neurotypical employees do. However, when I read articles like these, what I'm seeing is that while we're definitely in a much better place now than we were before, significant changes still need to be made in the workplace & beyond. I had an interesting conversation via text with my best friend I'd like to share with you & that's what today's topic is about. Let's Step Away From The Technology, Mathematical, & Science Industries For A Moment: When you think autism, you generally think Dr. Sheldon Cooper in The Big Bang Theory or Dr. Shaun Murphy in The Good Doctor. I mean, this autistic stereotype is clearly illustrated within their characters, after all. Both articles that were sent to me mentioned this stereotype. My view on this is that articles written about this add to our already existent stereotype, rather than combatting it, which is what we really need. For example, the article my cousin sent me stated that, "Employers have begun to realize that individuals with autism are assets to the company, especially in the engineering and technology industry, where skills such as attention to detail, extended focusing, and mathematical concepts are in demand." On the other hand, the article that my best friend sent me mentioned that some industries, like tech & finance are moving faster than others when in comes to neuroinclusion. While I think that's great, what I'm more interested in are the other industries. Personally, I am someone who would not thrive in any of the stereotypical autistic industries. While I thrived in algebra & statistics while I was in school, I am not a technical- or a mathematical-oriented person. To be totally honest, I inputted numbers into formulas to get the answers because my teacher or professor told me to, but I never understood why I was doing that. And I was never required to remember the formulas I learned because having notecards for tests was an accommodation I had in both high school & college. Autistic people can also be extremely creative, be talented writers, & be great with animals. I can tell you that this is where my personal talents lie. Several industries autistic people tend to thrive in are journalism, animal science, pet grooming, animal care, filmmaking, videography, animation, photography, & graphic design. In elementary school & middle school, I spent my free time writing poetry. In high school & college, graphic design was my hobby. Even though I didn't write poetry as often when I was older, I often still used it to express my feelings. We don't hear about the link between these particular industries & autism often... or at all. What I'm interested in is how THESE industries & other industries outside of the technology, mathematical, & science fields are embracing autistic people & becoming more inclusive. Where These Autistic Stereotypes Came From:
I believe that these autistic stereotypes were created because there are so many undiagnosed autistic females. The technology, mathematical, & science industries are all male-dominated fields. So, of course if undiagnosed autistic females work in other fields, people are unaware of autism's presence outside of the tech bubble! A great illustration of this occurred shortly after I had a conversation with my physician about the fact that I am likely autistic. In my quest to learn more about autism & about myself, I purchased the book, I Think I Might Be Autistic: A Guide to Autism Spectrum Disorder Diagnosis and Self-Discovery for Adults. When I finished reading it, I gave it to my dad to read. After my dad read the autistic traits section of that book, he told me he knows many people who are like the type of person Cynthia Kim is describing. My dad was an engineer for over twenty-five years, so I'm sure that many of his former colleagues are autistic. Engineering is one of the fields that fits that autistic stereotype. Also, after everything I have learned about autism over the past year, I believe that my dad is autistic himself. Where This Leads Us: While it's great that more & more organizations are willing to talk about & accept autism & neurodiversity, there clearly is significant work that still needs to be done. It is time for all industries to be more inclusive & welcoming; but I am most interested in what the industries outside of the technology, mathematical, & science fields are doing to achieve this. |
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